Sexuality is an amazingly complex area of human experience. It can be deeply fulfilling and it can be a source of great pain and frustration. Sexuality and sensuality are often part of relationship counseling with issues like lack of time, emotional conflict, boredom, etc. Sometimes sexuality is a primary concern with issues such as large desire differences, physical functioning, past trauma, sex addiction, and particular aspects of infidelity recovery. Individuals too can and do seek understanding, healing and/or change in their sexual lives.
Sex may be the primary concern either because it’s severely lacking, or even though it is okay, there is a deep desire to move toward more satisfying, ecstatic and/or spiritual experiences. In other words, when there is a substantial gap between what they have and what they want. Also, some people are interested in help with areas and interests such as fantasy, kink, fetishes, addiction, and/or non-traditional relationship configurations such as open relationships, swinging, or polyamory.
Gender is another area that can be a powerful area for people in learning how they feel best-suited and most comfortable, or for those who are comfortable with their gender identity yet their self-expression runs into difficulty in a world that often doesn’t accept those that don’t fit the norm.
Of course all of these issues can occur for people regardless of their sexual orientation, which is yet another entire dimension of sexuality. As we said, it’s a complex area of people’s lives. Our basic approach is sex-positive with openness, acceptance, and bringing knowledge and awareness of this still culturally taboo field together with traditional counseling skills and knowledge of ways to help people toward healthy, happy, authentic lives.
Attraction, sexuality, sensuality, and gender can be a source of great joy, intimacy, ecstasy, playfulness, depth, expression. It is (or can be) a key element of many people’s life-force, bringing energy, color, and vitality. Our opportunity is to make the most of it.