Stephen Ledyard:   Some thoughts about what I do.

Something happens in my office when I sit with another person whose presence is motivated by a sincere desire for change. As we commit deeper to the question before us–without knowing the outcome —something happens in that space. The “In-between” I call it; The “Sacred Garden,” where the depth of one’s intention for growth and healing begins to warm the heart, that place where, as your guide, I have learned to trust the wisdom to be found shining there. My job is to help you trust that wisdom and follow it to wholeness.

I believe in the paradox of life’s inherent capacity to knock us down in order to give us the truest opportunity to become whole. Rilke, the German poet, taking up the human fear of change, came to his own understanding of the necessity of facing it:

What we choose to fight is so tiny!

What fights with us is so great!

If only we would let ourselves be dominated

As things do by some immense storm,

We would become strong too, and not need names.

Transformation comes into our lives not by the power of personal control but by discovering our capacity for faith in life to reveal our true nature. As we consciously face the darkest, most unexpected challenges—those that trigger feelings of great helplessness—we begin to form a relationship to that which a Navajo brother refers to as the Grandmother and Grandfather alive in the heavens above--that which mirrors what is most precious in our own human heart: The immutable and indestructible light of love.

I feel a deep gratitude for all the individuals who have come to work with me; my own journey has been immeasurably affected by the gift of their sharing.  My marriage has been likewise influenced by the quality of the work by those couples for whom the Imago approach to conscious committed relationship has been a key to their renewed expression of deepest intimacy. This brilliant but pragmatic blend of skillful means and sound theory (created by Harville Hendrix) helped transform my marriage with Bea, and I am not sure that we would have come to celebrate these thirty-five years together without it.

The tools which have made the greatest difference for Bea and I are the same tools I teach couples in my office, in our regularly scheduled appointment, or in the deeply transformative experience of an intensive (three to four hour session), as well as in the amazing gift of the Getting The Love You Want Workshop For Couples.   

I believe passionately in this work, and welcome you to contact me if you feel it might serve you on your path at this time.

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