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Weekend Couples Workshop preferred to Counseling

Posted by on Apr 5, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

By Tim Higdon MS LPC A new trend is emerging where couples would rather spend a weekend restoring their connection than go to months of counseling. The obvious reason is the length of time involved. But, are their other advantages that are bringing couples to weekend workshops as well? To start with there are three paths couples take to restore their connection. First, they read a book (or blog, article, or newsletter) and attempt to do the exercises in the book. While gaining information and becoming educated about how to improve your relationship is important, it often falls short when it comes to actually implementing the advice and exercises. Seeking couples...

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Parents: Don’t PIC on Yourselves!

Posted by on Mar 28, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

By Bea Ledyard, MS When I am sitting with parents in my office discussing their child I always make a point to tell them that they are good parents. Why do I think that? Because they have paid attention to their child – been concerned about something – want to make it better – and have taken action by being here with me. However usually they are surprised to hear me say this and I understand why. All of us parents have an inner voice that can be very loud, harsh and shaming which I call the Parental Inner Critic (PIC). This critical part of ourselves will tell us: “If you were a good parent this… •    tantrum in the middle of Safeway •    bad behavior at...

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Left Brain vs Right Brain “Knowing”

Posted by on Mar 16, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

By Mary Meador MD I am going to be teaching a course next month at Portland State University entitled The Science of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB). IPNB can be characterized as the scientific study of what it means to be human. It considers all fields of science, from physics and mathematics to psychology and anthropology, and explores the overlapping truths among them. This field aims to grasp the objective reality of subjective experience. Pretty cool, eh? The Science of IPNB course involves teaching a lot about neuroscience and the brain. Our knowledge base in this area is exploding which is both exciting and also challenging. We are learning so much, and yet we...

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Your Sense of Connection Can Enhance Your Relationship

Posted by on Mar 8, 2015 in Relationships | 0 comments

by D’Arcy Swanson, LPC Most people want their romantic relationship to feel close, warm, and connected.  At the heart of it, that is what brought you together in the first place.  The truth is that feeling of connection is fluid.  It ebbs and flows due to a thousand factors, many of which are just life.  Children acting up, taxes due, a big work project, or just being exhausted can easily sap our energy and attention.  And of course, some factors are about our relationship.  Perhaps we feel unappreciated or dismissed or unimportant.  These will almost certainly affect the connection we feel. One of the more useful tools I have found is to imagine that you have...

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The Meaning of Marriage

Posted by on Sep 29, 2014 in Relationships | 0 comments

The Meaning of Marriage by Mary Meador, MD Last weekend I had the honor of officiating my niece’s wedding, something I had never done before. What a tremendous experience! In the ceremony, I spoke about the meaning of marriage which I would like to share here. Marriage is an opportunity; an opportunity to experience that love is more than just a feeling, love is a verb. Marriage is an opportunity to co-create the relationship of your dreams. Marriage is an opportunity to learn to live in loving kindness towards each other each and every day. Marriage is also an opportunity to learn to love oneself. It turns out that realizing the true love of another person requires a...

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Tim Higdon MS LPC

Posted by on Jan 23, 2014 in Therapists | 0 comments

Tim Higdon MS LPC

My professional journey began in family counseling, helping to bring high school dropouts back to school. As a Residential Treatment Director, I learned that teenagers were most successful when they have at least one caring adult in their corner. It wasn’t much of a stretch to understand that if I could help couples keep their marriages together everyone in the family benefits. I was introduced to Imago Relationship Therapy in 1993. It not only transformed my career it helped me understand my own marriage. A trained marriage counselor needs to understand the unique and varied challenges you face. Marital challenges can arise from the stress of work,home life, and...

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